...ok, before we go too far, let me reframe that.
There are some things that none of us have a choice about - for instance, you don't have a choice or even a "hand" as to whether you're male or female. You are the gender God created you as and no incision or delusion can change that...
Another thing that we do not have any control over, is whether or not we face challenges in life. Jesus promised us challenges - and victory too.*