Seven things a Pastor should understand about his wife*

When I saw this piece, I decided to share it....as I celebrate my husband who knows these and more about me... 

This month, we focused on “The Unforgotten Bride” in the Perry Noble leadership podcast…basically, we talked about the pastor’s wife and how she quite often is the most under appreciated and under valued person in the church…by the pastor (her husband!)  You can go to the “Perry Noble Leadership Podcast” on iTunes and download the episode for free.  (It would actually be beneficial for any husband and wife to listen through!)

Today, I wanted to share seven things a pastor (or any husband) should understand about his wife…

#1 – Your wife is not your servant…and God’s #1 call on her life is NOT for her to be impressed with you.  When you expect her to be impressed with you, the way for an affair has been prepared because your biggest desire is to have your ego stroked and not to be the man God has called you to be…one who is unselfish and loves His wife like Christ loves the church.

What NOT to say to a Pastor’s Wife*

 I got this piece and decided  share it...would be nice to read your thought on this.

Author’s note: I wish Margaret were here to help with this one.  As my wife of over 52 years and through our six pastorates covering 42 years, I suppose she heard it all.  As of January, 2015, she’s now resting in the arms of her Savior. In her memory and in her honor, I send this forth to encourage church members to bless this dear lady married to the shepherd whom God sent to your church.  Please see the disclaimer at the end.

“Encourage one another and lift up one another…” (I Thessalonians 5:11, somewhat, and a favorite line in an old chorus)

Be human

Before we go to far, let me point out that the title is: "Be human" not "Be fleshy." I need to point that out because I know there are times when I see a word and layer an alternate meaning on it sometimes based on the fact that I've seen/heard people use the words interchangeably or even done that myself.

This one thing...

The inspiration for this post - especially as the first for this year was from a simple yet profound statement from Pastor Geri Scazzero. Talking to Mrs. Pastors, she said:

"You do not have to have a vision to plant churches, you just need to have a vision (I add, and desire), to love your husband."

I agree(d) whole-heartedly because love is such a powerful force. Now, I do recognize that Mrs. Pastors are at different points on the "How do you feel about being Mrs. Pastor?" spectrum which ranges from "I sure did not bargain for this, I don't want to be a Pastor's wife" to "Praise God! Being married to a Pastor is a prayer answered."  

When you take your eyes off your husband's "position" and focus on one thing - your passion for him, you'll find a deep desire to see and support him succeed in all he lays his hands on. Think about it, it was love for us that made Jesus give up His life* so we could have all good things in life. I pray that you'll join me in renewing our resolve to focus on this one thing...

Happy New Leap Year. May your love for God & for each other grow in leaps & bounds.

AMEN!

References:

* Romans 5:8 - But God shows [demonstrates; proves] his great [own] love for us in this way: Christ died for us while we were still sinners. (AMP)

Romans 8:32 - God didn’t spare his own Son but handed him over to death for all of us. So he will also give us everything along with him. (GWT)