Mentoring without a mentor...

As Mrs Pastor, I'm sure you know or have found out that without it being said directly, church members' expectation is that Mrs Pastor has a good reputation above reproach - almost bordering on perfection - I won't go there. For now, let's focus on what the Bible says in a roundabout way about Mrs. Pastors (& male Ministers' wives) when referring to the choice of church leaders:

Titus 1: 6 - [These elders should be] men who are of unquestionable integrity and are irreproachable, the husband of [but] one wife, whose children are [well trained and are] believers, not open to the accusation of being loose in morals and conduct or unruly and disorderly. (Amplified)

So if all these are expected of the man, it goes without saying that his wife should be like him i.e. "of unquestionable integrity and are irreproachable" otherwise how can they jointly raise the kind of children described in the verse?

The second "expectation" of women - including Mrs Pastors is in the very next chapter:

Tell older women to live their lives in a way that shows they are dedicated to God. Tell them not to be gossips or addicted to alcohol, but to be examples of virtue. In this way they will teach young women to show love to their husbands and children, to use good judgment, and to be morally pure. Also, tell them to teach young women to be homemakers, to be kind, and to place themselves under their husbands’ authority. Then no one can speak evil of God’s word. (Titus 2: 3-5 - God's Word Translation)

With all the changes going on in life, we cannot stand by and do (or say) nothing. Doing nothing will be tantamount to sin in my mind - because: "Whoever knows what is right but doesn’t do it is sinning."*

Whether or not we have or had mentors, we have a responsibility to mentor.

2 Timothy 2:2 touches on it: And the [instructions] which you have heard from me along with many witnesses, transmit and entrust [as a deposit] to reliable and faithful men who will be competent and qualified to teach others also.**

This verse is one that clearly states that mentoring is part of ministry.

I like this piece a Mrs Pastor friend sent to me - it's a long and worthy read:

http://www.reviveourhearts.com/radio/revive-our-hearts/why-women-need-each-other-1/#transcript

Personally, I see mentoring younger women to be godly wives and mothers, among other things, as an opportunity to fill a gap that we lacked when I just got married. Unlike today, we didn't really have a Christian couple to look up to - not that they didn't exist it was just that...well that's history. The point is now, I pray and do my best so my husband and I are a Christian couple younger couples can not just look up to but actually feel free (& safe) to come to for guidance and mentoring...though we didn't have such mentors.

As they say, we help people one at a time...
so you can only imagine how much further we go in impacting the world when we mentor
married couples (or those soon-to-be married). From experience, I've learned that you don't have to have a mentor to mentor another...just be willing to give of yourself to others and they do not have to be members of your church because mentoring (aka discipling), not denomination, matters.

References:
* James 4:17 - God's Word Translation
** Amplified